Ashley Williams | Wife | Mother of two
Recently I decided to take my health and physical activity seriously for the past couple months now. My cousin was hospitalized back in November because a blood clot and when she was released from the hospital she changed her eating and exercise habits and has since drop a significant amount of weight. She and I are very close so naturally I wanted to become healthier as well; as a result I adopted a new way of eating and exercising into my life now. I have been visiting my weight loss doctor and have already lost 5lbs. The reason I wanted to share this with you is because in my weight loss class we have to identify what triggers us to eat and eat and eat until we have packed on unwanted pounds and I was able to identify at least 5.
The first trigger I was able to notice was that once I became a mother I automatically put in my head that my kids are #1 and my whole life revolved around them, so when I put them first I unconsciously put myself second meaning that I made no time to exercise and make wiser decisions about my health. The second trigger that I believe a lot of married couples can relate to is becoming comfortable within your marriage. I became comfortable after my husband and I got married. I didn’t try as hard to look good or keep my health in order. My mentality was, “Well, I got my man and he is happy with the way I look so why work so hard to change the way I look?” I think a lot of us as married folk can relate to this mentality, feeling that you have your mate so you’re not as self-conscious as you would be if you were single simply because you have your mate. The third and probably one of the most difficult trigger that played a key role in my weight gain was the death of my mother. When she passed away I ate like a KING not a QUEEN, people brought us all types of unhealthy foods that I ate for months. Then in her passing I comforted myself with wine and food; I was not thinking about my health at all during this time. This was a very difficult time for me and continues to be difficult. One of the biggest components for weight gain is depression and the passing of my mother did bring on those depressive symptoms. At that point I really did care about my weight or health, I just wanted to feel comforted and food was comforting. The fourth trigger for me was the birth of my son, my second born. Although I was sick while pregnant with him and could hardly eat; however the times I was able to eat it was the worse food ever! While pregnant with AJ I gain 45lbs and after having him I only dropped about 25 lbs., leaving me weighing 220 at 5’6. My doctor told me that I needed to lose the weight for health factors and I’m sure that many mothers, especially of 2 or more have experienced that difficulty in getting weight off after that second child. Some bounce back, which is awesome, but for me there was no bouncing back! LOL. My fifth and final trigger that I feel is most important and something that affects all women at some point in their lives is self-worth. I did not believe I was valuable or worthy and as a result I treated my body as such. My self-worth was at its all-time low. I was not only taking care of my family (husband and two children), but I was also dealing with family issues outside of my home. As the oldest of five, after my mother passed I felt a sense of responsibility over my siblings even though we are all adults. I took on too much in trying to be the big sister and mother and soon began to feel unappreciated. This made me question my self-worth because I felt I wasn’t meeting the needs of everyone. I questioned my value and worth as a wife, mother and sister.
When my cousin was released from the hospital she would talk to me about the importance of eating right and praying and seeking God on a daily basis how all these work hand and hand and ever since I have been doing this for myself, life has become so much clearer. When I was stuffing my face with unhealthy food it made me tired, sleepy and angry and I hated even getting dress in the mirror. Through my weight loss doctor, nurses and classes, I have identified these triggers and have learned how to control them and not allow it to control me. I pray, read devotion and mediate on how God’s sees me (Proverbs 31:10-31) and I am creating a new me. Through prayer and devotion I am drawing closer to God and he is definitely changing me. I am the most clear headed I have been in my life. I am excited to spend time with my husband and I have energy for my children.
Through my weight loss journey I have learned to release negative people and not feel bad about it. I am learning to forgive and love people where they are and I am also learning how to be a good steward over my finances. Although 5lbs is a not a lot of weight it’s a BRAND NEW START FOR ME! I can’t wait to see the final results.
I hope that this will encourage women to always put themselves first and take care of themselves before they can take care of anyone else. I want women who are waiting for the “ring” to concentrate on being a good woman before they can become a good wife. It is vital they we are eating as clean as possible and exercising daily for at least 20 minutes. If you have a NIV bible read Proverbs 31:10-31. We have to be strong and healthy. In God’s word He said we are “more precious than rubies”. We must start looking at ourselves as God sees us.
Thank you Ashley for sharing your health and fitness story with us! For any other ladies reading this and interested in submitting a personal inspirational story for other women to read and be inspired, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Until next time…