There’s this sermon that I have heard in so many words in the past year or so, and every time I hear it I’m like “Mmm! Yes God!” I think I’ve heard it so many times for a reason. We make so many plans for our lives, hoping and praying that things will turn out the way we want them to. Our plans don’t necessarily have to be negative. I mean, my plans for my life were pretty positive and clean! I figured I would be doing something I absolutely loved by the time I turn 25 in August (sigh.. So depressing). I figured I would be so in love & ready to be married. Well! What’s the saying? “A good man is hard to come by?”
& doing something I absolutely love?! Ehh. Let’s just say by 25, about 50 percent of what I wanted to accomplish will be accomplished. That’s not bad! Right?! I feel like almost every little girl plans their life and when we become 18 and start living life foreal, we become sooooo disappointed. I would know. I’ve looked back over my life & became depressed like “Wow.. yeah, no.”
Us women get so stuck on what we want that it’s really hard to let God take the wheel. I am absolutely one of them. I’ve been in situations that I knew were just not right, but I wanted to make it right, or I wanted it to become right, so I prayed & prayed & prayed. Now this was at the beginning of 2014, okay. It’s 2015. It’s still not where I want it to be. Now I know that God’s way is best & what He wants will make me happy, but.. what about what I want to make me happy? Why can’t that be it? Why does it have to be something else?
That’s basically what we say to God. I remember thinking about the situation and just trying to make myself accept that it was not for me. It was hard! I really wanted it for myself! I remember just rambling on in my mind & I caught myself saying “I’m afraid to turn it over to God because what He wants may not be what I want.” I was willing to suffer. I was willing to be upset. I was willing to be confused & frustrated all because I have no clue what God has for me. I was afraid He would eliminate the situation all together. Smh. Crazy, right?! I was willing to be unhappy because I don’t know specifically what God has for me. I just know that it’s what’s best & at that point, that wasn’t good enough. Smh.
God has a plan. As I’ve said many times before, this plan, as you read, is nothing less of great. It’s legit everything! Why is it so hard for us to accept that? Why is it so hard for us to let go of the wheel? Why can’t we just allow God’s goodness to prevail?
When I’m going somewhere I’ve never been, I put the address into the GPS on my phone. Before I pull off, I have to know where I’m going, so I look at the list of directions. I look at the list of directions even before I press start, and I make sure that the route is a route I want to take. Even after pulling off, I glance at the list of directions maybe 2 or 3 more times just to make sure because what I don’t like is the fact that sometimes the GPS can tell you just a little late which way you’re suppose to be turning.
What’s crazy is sometimes, I go the opposite way of the GPS. I’ll say “Uhhh.. that’s wrong!” Or I’ll say “If I go this way, it’ll be quicker.” This correlates so well with how I go about God’s directions sometimes. I prefer to know where I’m going & what’s ahead of me before I make a move and if I don’t agree, I make my own route, therefore going the wrong way or I end up lost. “Rerouting…”
The older we get, the more planning we do. Especially since we’re grown & can make our own decisions. And we can kind of predict our own outcomes?! Psh! As women, I believe we’re natural dreamers, unfortunately, so it’s hard to put our lives in the hands of someone who will not reveal one simple thing to us. Remember that boy you thought you were “madly in love with” in high school & thought you were going to marry?! You prayed about it & everything! Bet you’re glad that didn’t happen! He’s not as dreamy as you thought he was, now, is he?! Ever realize that it didn’t “work out” because that wasn’t God’s plan for you? Had you gotten what you wanted a couple times, you would more than likely be very disappointed right now.
Here’s the thing. Before we were even born, God had a plan for us all. We are here on this Earth for many reasons, one of them being to live out our purpose. Majority of us don’t know what our purpose is & that’s okay! Pray about it! Ask God what your purpose is. We get so caught up in trying to live our lives according to what we want, sometimes not knowing that what God has for us is even better, and sometimes, knowing this but not being receptive of it. So we get off course. We take our own route as if we actually know where we’re going. We try to set our destination ourselves and end up miserable and unhappy, crying to God. Ever went down one road, ended up somewhere you didn’t want to be, & thought something along the lines of “If I would have/hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t have ended up (be) here.”
Girlfriend. Let go of the wheel! Trust & believe that God has you! Crazy how we can get off route, end up crying to God, & end up back on route. It’s like we just made a u-turn. Sometimes the u-turn can be a long one! Don’t get it twisted, though! Some people get so off route that they never get back on route. They end up somewhere & just refuse to let God take the wheel. Tragedy & mishaps just continue to happen. Don’t be that person. I decided I wanted to be happy & trust, it’s legit the best idea I’ve made in my life! True story! I pulled over, got out the car, & got into the passenger’s seat. But here’s the thing (people will tell you), I’m a passenger driver, so for 2015, I decided I’m going to get into the backseat & lay down. It’s a waste of time trying to go my own route & I have no clue where I’m going in the first place. Do you know how much of your life you waste trying to drive to a destination you’ve never been to without using your GPS?! Do you know how much disappointment you experience?! Do you know how many blessings you miss out on?! GIRL! It’s not worth it! When I tell you I pray about the simplest things! My prayer so far for 2015 is that I don’t miss out on any blessing that has my name on it. I want my blessings! I want happiness! I don’t want to be depressed because I got all extra excited planning my life & it went nothing like I planned! (Mercy!) My prayer for 2015 has also been for guidance. “Lord, lead me down the path you want me to go, for what you have for me is better than what anyone, including myself, has for me.”
Is there anything in your life that you know should not be? Confused about anything? Let go & let God do His thing. With Him, you will be happy. When it’s lightning and storming so hard you can’t see out the windshield, don’t trip. God will be driving. He controls all of that, so He’ll lead you through it safely. It can become very frustrating not knowing which way to go or what move to make. Don’t stress about it, though. Pray about it. Breathe & pray about it again. God will give you your answer, believe me. It may not be when you want it but you’ll get it. You may not go where you want to go, but where He takes you will be even better. You may think He’s going to miss the turn but trust that whenever He turns, it’ll be right on time. Even if His directions take you all out of the way, you have to trust that it is for a reason. I dare you to hand something over to Him. You don’t keep hearing that same message over & over again for no reason.
Contributing writer for Chased By Hope (Post originally written here)